What does this mean?
I'll give it to you simply: If it's not your cup of tea, it doesn't hurt you BUT someone else likes it, don't be judgy about it!
We live in a world that is ready to hit the cancel button at any moment. Why? Where has civil discourse gone? I will use myself for an example...I love to talk about taboo topics. I see no problem with discussing intimacy and sex with mixed company. I'm not saying go into gross detail about it, but rather what our wants and needs are. I think sex is normal and healthy.
growing up religious, I was made to feel guilty about experiencing my sexuality. It led me to not enjoy myself and all the glory and pleasure my body could feel and put my pleasure last in relationships. as I have grown I have changed and learned to accept my desires without guilt. Now, I still struggle here and there, but it's nothing like it used to be.
So when I have conversations with judgmental people, I ask them "why?" why do you feel nervous to discuss sex and pleasure? It's a natural part of being human. And as a woman, your pleasure is just as valid as that of your counterpart. Of course, I will always respect when it may be a conversation topic they feel uncomfortable with. But I will never understand when they feel that they are not allowed to explore that conversation due to the guilt placed upon them by others.
Whatever your truth is, live it. Easier said than done. I know this. But just know this: you are allowed to feel. You are allowed to have pleasure in this life. Do not feel guilty for what's naturally yours.
oh yeah. One more thing...ALWAYS ask for consent!
Love always your cycle half,
Stephanie